Last Saturday evening, three friends and sensual bodyworkers gathered in my studio. We ate fruit and sipped kombucha, laid sheets on the table, warmed oil, set music and lights down low.
We left our lovers at home. We left unfinished work, to do lists, email inboxes, text replies, family. We left relationship dynamics and unsolvable arguments. For one evening, we left it all and took in a celebration.
A birthday. Our friendship. The simple revolutionary act of women honouring our pleasure together.
Between bites of almonds and pineapple, we asked each other what our edges were in sensual touch, what we might be afraid of and what we wanted.
Then we undressed and moved to the table, taking our turns and diving into the oceanic world of touch, sound, movement and breath.
A client recently shared with me that he believes there’s something ‘pure’ about a professional sensual bodywork session. The boundaries and skill of a session offers a kind of pleasure that is unique and distinct from the depth, complexity and often messiness of sensuality within romantic relationships.
When we aren’t contained by the baggage of the past or the expectations of the future, something new is allowed to be born. A different kind of love blooms, one rooted in pleasure of the present moment.
I have habitually assumed that my sexual growth and satisfaction tank is kept full by lovers and by offering sensual bodywork to clients. On Saturday I realized my sexual expression is shaped and invariably contained by the particular history and dynamics of each relationship. A different sensual ‘me’ comes forward I’m in a sensual friendships, just as another expression arises in a ritual of pleasure with professional bodyworkers. Last Saturday night, I noticed new tenderness, new power, and new joy to be with women.
I would love to hear from you (in person or in comments below) about any particular aspects of your sensuality, identity, spirituality or creativity finds expression in a sensual bodywork session.